is more common nowadays to hear the word "abuse" that "buentrato", the latter barely used, it sounds strange. No doubt this speaks of a sad reality.
I am not referring to domestic violence, but the lack of "buentrato"
daily words of encouragement
The biblical proverb that supports our title says it best: "The words (or events) kind: sweeten life and give health to the body. "- Proverbs 16:24 (NIV). Sweetness to the bitterness of life and health for mind and body shot. Unfortunately, the pressures of everyday life make us overlook all too often, opportunities to build self-confidence of our spouse or partner, which endangered the relationship.
Praise is like sunlight for the human spirit immersed in the darkness of the routine, we can not flourish and develop without them. On one occasion, Mark Twain confessed that "I could live for two months with a good compliment." Twain, who was not a man of exceptional vanity, they recognized that almost all feel in ourselves: we all need from time to time words of encouragement. But the truth is that we are short on the warm caress of lavish praise.
It is good that we do not like flattery expressing emotions not felt, although some demagogic use flattery and adulation, (censored attitudes in the Word) to gain followers and sympathizers. Such insincerity easy warn, is a form of deception and lies. But, is it not equally fraudulent spare words a person, whom we love and loves us, longs to hear from our lips and on the other side deserves?
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Please call us to think that nouns or adjectives you mentioned or addressed to your partner, either a boyfriend or spouse. You'll notice that the terms used by custom are not positive and less constructive. It may be a familial nickname, yet adds nothing and you will see that even sounds annoying and devaluing. Often these nicknames or diminutives of names it is addressed to bother, but the other person insists unusual "sadism nominative" regardless of the effect it has on your partner or spouse.
can not deny that the words are nouns or adjectives, adjectives often are told by custom, but there are some that sound better, uplift, build, and stand in contrast to what is usually heard, sweeten life.
This assertion is supported also by another scripture: "apples of gold on silver platter, that the word spoken in due season." - Proverbs 25:11
Someone said that "friendship is the pleasing game exchange praise. " And yet how few boyfriends or spouses are praised each other for well-conducted activities. A tasty meal made by her or a delicious grilled by him, a well-fed mate, a neatly pressed shirt (though it need not be pressed), an arrangement in the house, a simple gift for no reason, rather than to please partner are "excuses" and reason enough to give a compliment. Praise prints
warmth and pleasure to daily life, and makes music to the ears everyday sounds. And this is never truer than in marriage. The wife or husband to be alert to express a warm eulogy at the right time, or "the word spoken in time," has gained valuable double insurance.
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Año tras año, en la convivencia íntima, acaso llegue usted a considerar las virtudes de su cónyuge como algo ordinario y natural. Si le agrada especialmente un rasgo del carácter o de conducta de su pareja no deje de expresar su agrado. Esmérese en elogiarle algo, por lo menos una vez al día. ¿Le parece mucho? ¿Acaso no está en deuda después de tantos años de favores y actitudes que fueron dirigidas especialmente para usted?
Pero no generalice. Sea específico. Felicite a su esposa como cocinera por algún plato en especial, “ese que nadie hace como ella”, si lo hace en público multiplica el puntaje. Si está estudiando algún curso o carrera and emerged successful or successful in a test, highlight especially with a warm eulogy to serve as encouragement and motivation to continue the effort.
If your partner is doing a weight loss regimen, join the effort affectionately not eating what she does not suit you, and if you do not need to lose a few pounds, not bad will accompany the effort. This already is a compliment, and encourages small gains each day.
When he publicly praised his wife (or a woman praises her man to another), the praise becomes more valuable.
How true! A distinguishing feature more than anything in lasting marriages: the provision of husband and wife express their love in public. If the spouses express in public praise that explicitly reveal the pride I feel for his "better half", nothing really serious can tarnish their happy relationship.
is important to do at the right time. You should not expect too much to commend loved so well that you cut the lawn, gardening or painting a door. Nor, I think, you may have another opinion, do it immediately, when there is no surprise. Wait a little while, and then when the spouse believes you have forgotten it, spray it with praise. That will be more powerful and surprising effect.
This was sophisticated and inhuman, almost all tend to restrain our emotions. We refrain from uttering words of love, admiration and approval ... words that could settles forever the love of the person who will be our companion for life. Moreover, we feel it is corny and syrupy soap opera itself. But if you look at the audience see that such programs are numerous and most of the female public, that show us that women like to hear expressions of caring and loving attitudes see if they are not directed at them.
The marriage is a relationship where two people struggle to find comfort and fulfillment ... and not much to ask, just be paramount for the other. Know someone that needs us as anyone, and occasionally hear a word of appreciation and praise from the lips of the beloved. Not much to ask, but that's enough.
The importance of "tone and volume that we use
is possible that the relationship is resented and did not wish to express praise. And this may be the way of treatment so far have been. You never want to lose out in a discussion. The screams are the only form of communication known. The silences and incommunicado for days and so many destructive forms of marriage are the daily bread ... It would be then spiritually necessary to repair this situation and apply the Word of therapy we recommended in many friction relationships. Oddly enough he starts winning first change of attitude and apply the biblical remedy: "A soft answer turns away wrath." - Proverbs 15:1
In short and to begin to address this new lifestyle very healthy for our unions affective, we must remember that everything happens for "the content and the abundance of the heart." We must examine our feelings, emotions and thoughts which find expression through words. If we do not repair our heart before God failed to produce "words to cure. " Tells us that Jesus Christ himself: "... the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks." - Luc. 6:45. What abounds in my heart. My words of praise and appreciation to my wife or children will not achieve on their own to improve my relationship. If so, this will pass for a prescription to help themselves. Only the presence and lordship of Christ in my heart produce words, uttered as if the Lord.
Author: Dr. Osvaldo J. Taken
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